Those four words.
I see these posted everywhere, particularly social media – Twitter, Reddit, you name it.
In fact, I’m 100% positive I’ve heard MYSELF say it to someone.
And in a way, it’s become a default phrase that people tend to use – when someone is really struggling, having a relapse or a breakdown, or feel like there’s no will to carry on with life.
In a way, it’s almost synonymous to when people say “Things will get better.” It’s reassuring, and is exactly what someone like me would want someone to say to me during a difficult time. You start to believe that things “can only go up”, even if for some people, things never do improve.
(And that’s not just me being cynical – for some people, life DEFINITELY doesn’t get any better)
However, when someone says “It’s lying to you”, it’s implying that what is going up *in there* is an entirely different entity to what actually happens – i.e. “You’re overthinking. What your mind is saying won’t happen. I promise.”
And for the most part, I’d agree. What I think in my head is completely different to real life.
But sometimes what we think can become reality.
Let me give you an example. Just over a month ago, I wrote a poem titled “My Biggest Fear“, which revolves around the theme around my fear of loneliness, and that now that I’ve left college, I’m going to isolate myself from my friends and never talk to anyone again and become a lonely, emotional mess.
Fast forward a month, and I’m quite possibly the loneliest I’ve felt in a long while. I’m going through another mental health relapse. I can’t sleep (hence this post at 1am in the morning). I feel like a failure – no job, no potential. I have nothing. I feel absolutely shit about life. I feel anger, even over the smallest of things.
And now I’m sat here, thinking “I called it. I called this a month ago, and I knew it was happening. I could see it. I felt it. So my brain WASN’T lying to me then? And why didn’t I do anything about it?”
All I’m suggesting is that maybe we shouldn’t just “disregard” our thoughts so easily. If we have a thought that seems like it could happen, make note of it. Do something about it that prevents it from happening.
If that makes sense (I’ve got no idea, to be honest; I’m so sleep-deprived and got no idea if I’m making any kind of sense)
Yeah, I think I just need to sleep.